ok, once again i feel like an idiot.
the noise/vibration happened again this morning.
i immediately stopped , put the car into neutral and started doing stuff to figure this out, turns out it was steering related.i turned around and went back home, topped up the power steering fluid and it has been quiet ever since.
i will just keep my eye on it for a while before i will be completely satisfied.
now i just need to figure out where my fluid is going.