Guess whats meant to happen will happen, tho I was swearing at everyone who had anything to say on the scene..even my dad mentioned to my wife that he had never heard me swear anyone like that in all my life..I'm normally a very calm, cool person.
Anyway just got back from BMW, the chassis and the rest of the car is fine, damage all in came to almost R200 000.00. The damaged panels and everything around will be replaced even if it wasn't damaged. Apparently it is part of the motor plan policy for my car. I asked about the fender as well, this is plastic in order to absorb big impacts and break of. Also easily replacable, fits on with a few plastic clips. The front windows are also designed to shatter and break off so the occupants of the vehicle can get out if you are pinned in.
So lets see how the repairs go... I know I've lost a huge amount of money on this car now, what a waste..car has only 28 501 kms on and was spotless.