@Gavsadler,
The bearing clearances are too tight. One must also remember that the M3's have high revving engines with piston speeds of over 25 meters per second @ 8000rpm (one can imagine the stress this creates on the moving parts). There is also the question of the oil being used. For example. When the oil is cold, it is thick and thus difficult to get between the bearings/crank/rods. When the car is warmed up, the viscosity changes which allows the oil to now get into the tight clearances and keep the moving parts lubed up.
The aftermarket bearings such as the Vac bearings have a special coating that protects the bearings for a longer period, but I would not say they are a permanent fix, but I have never heard of Vac Bearings being thrown.
It comes down to driver responsibility really. Make sure the car warms up properly before driving her hard, else the oil doesn't get where it needs to and premature ware sets in.
There are countless threads on M3forum.com about other oils that are not the recommended 10w-60 and thus have a different viscosity which is said to help with engine starting and warm up, allowing the oil to reach into the tight spaces without needing much warming up, but those oils are not rated for high temperatures, thus prolonged hard driving is ill advised. You will also find some threads have included lab results, some stating that these oils prolong bearing life, and that the reason for BMW's use of a 10w60 oil was to save their skins when it comes to the track day ventures, where these engines will be running on very high temperatures for prolonged periods. These accusations are just that, but they may have a point. An interesting read none the less.
May I suggest a new thread be made and we invite Bahnstomer to post some findings that he may have. He has performed many oil analysis tests from his e46 M3 and I think his findings are impressive.
With that being said, I have heard Mobil 1 has a synthetic oil that works wonders on our S54 engines, I cannot comment on the use of Mobil 1 on the S65 and S85 engines.