Good thread with loads of info, but has been discussed a number of times, and with lots of varying points of view.
Now I just scanned through all that has already been said, so not sure if this has already been mentioned, but one other thing to consider when comparing the cooling down period for say a turbo diesel bakkie and a turbo diesel car is if there is a viscous fan running most of the time or just an electric fan. So let's say you are nailing the engine and stop, you do risk the chance of heat-soak, especially if the electric fan isn't running at that moment - so while the engine is idling and there is no airflow through the engine bay the heat is actually building up.
But, and this is where the general consensus seems to stand, if you do your cool off period as you are nearing your destination, as in drive gently and try and use off throttle conditions as much as possible, by the time that you do stop the engine and turbo temperatures have already stabilised to a more sensible temperature range to prevent damage, but idling should still take place even if only for a few seconds to a minute.
Another thing to consider is that diesel engines run at lower overall temperatures compared to petrol engines, but this is also when under normal loads etc...