Hi, haven't read the full thread, but if its in the seats and not when stationery it probably in the driveline. Have you checked the flex disks and gearbox mountings?
It could be that at 1800-2000 rpm the car is producing max torque and applying the most force to these parts deforming them slightly and causing an imbalance, hence the vibration.
These are also parts that due fail due to time and use, and I would imagine that diesel torque is not kind to rubber couplings, the fact that the issue is after the car was tuned for more power also points me in this direction, dropping a gear would bring the revs up higher and place less force (torque) on the components as the increase in rotational speed of the driveshaft+engine would mean a dip applied torque and rise in hp
Think of it as pedaling a bicycle up a steady incline, you could leave it in a high gear and mash power through the pedals (this id your car's current default) stressing the drive components, or you could drop a gear, increase your leg speed (cadance/rpm) which is what you are currently doing.
although you will achieve the same speed, the forces going though the components will be less.
TLDR, more drive-train speed, less torque
Just my thoughts